When you are conquering anger, you are taking control
of your life. We all lose control from time to time, but if anger is getting
the best of you each time you are rejected, frightened, or interrupted
emotional then there is obviously a problem existing. If you feel, you have a
problem controlling your anger you might need anger management therapy or
mental health services. You might even visit your doctor to see if a medical
condition is not contributing to your anger. It depends on the person, but in
most instances, we all deal with distresses, stress, and aggravation most of
our lives. It is learning how to deal with it that counts. Anger is an emotion
than can cause us more trouble that what existed causing the problem in the
first place. Self-control is often needed if two or more people are involved in
a conflict. If more than one person is angered in this group then problems will
occur if both parties are striking out at each other. Problems often get deeper
when anger bursts occur. When anger is controlling our society, we will always
have crimes, abuse, violence, health issues, heart attacks, mental illnesses,
and so forth. As you can see, nothing
good comes from uncontrolled anger. After careful study the statistics of angry
emotions has concluded that all of us have the ability to kill,
harm, injure,
or sabotage another person (s) life. When a person is angry is often a result
of threatened emotions, such as hurt of our self-importance, rejections,
difficult to deal with prospects, and antagonistic flight of the imaginations.
Most of us are selfish and will often consider self rather than considering
others first. When we do not get our way sometimes, we might blow a fuse and
strike at the target that made us mad. Our
actions often prove failure since it leads to more problems. If both parties
are screaming at each other it often instills additional anger that builds up
and remains there until the opportunity is available to blow another fuse. This
goes on and on and nothing is resolved. Our countries have a higher divorce
rate than ever and it is often because the couples could not come to a term of
agreement. Now if one person out of each home is using their head in the heat
of the moment then we have a hope. We can see in one example how anger got in
the way and caused a major problem. A couple is off work for the day and the
man is irritable and snaps as his wife. His wife looses her cool and shouts at
the husband calling him a stupid jerk. She continues to scream at him telling him
that he does not respect her and finally he looses his cool and joins in the
screaming match.
The two argue and scream at each other for short time and then
the wife turns on her heels and storms in the bedroom slamming the door behind
her. She yells through the door, by the
way you are sleeping on the couch tonight jerk. Now if the wife would have
said honey you seem irritable is there
something I can do to ease your mind. Is there a problem we can work through
together? What do you think would happen if the tables were turned and the
wife approached the husband lovingly and offering her support? The couple would
be sleeping together in their bedroom enjoying a peaceful rest most likely. We
can look at another example were the anger is a little more out of control. For
example, what if the wife is menstruating and she is irritable and her husband
is tired of her rejecting him. Now he approaches his wife and calls her a
selfish witch. She shouts at him and tells him he is not respecting her
feelings, and he then starts shouting back at the wife. The wife gets mad at
her husband and slaps him across the face, punching and kicking him as her
anger increases. Now we see we got a serious problem in front of us, and one or
the other is leaving because they are tired of the other. Now if the couple
would have took a deep breath and stayed away from the other it might have
proved effective later. However, if the husband would have been supported to
his wife’s emotions during her monthly cycle we would most likely had good
results and a problem on top of the existing problem would not exist.
Uncontrolled anger is selfish and it hurts others, therefore we must all learn
how to manage our anger and emotions.